Ways To Regain Control Of Your Life
Most of us go through life feeling like we don’t have any control over it. Our daily lives are filled with things we have to rush to do, while our dreams are filled with things we will probably never do.
And for that we have tons of excuses. Social and financial obligations dictate most of our behavior, while the rest of our choices are limited by fear.
In the end, life becomes a series of things that happen to us, not a series of things we decide. This should not be the case.
In reality, you can always overcome your anxieties and remove the obstacles that prevent you from moving forward. You can regain control of your life!
Be 110% engaged (and focused)
It is important to have big goals and ambitious dreams. But even more important is to stay engaged and focused.
Always keep your goals in mind and don’t deviate.
This is sometimes difficult, especially at times when your goals may seem so far away that they seem absolutely impossible to achieve. At those times, it’s much harder to stay committed.
So how can you stay committed?
It’s important to know that sometimes your success takes longer than expected, so you need to let things happen (but always work towards your goals) and be patient. Everything comes in handy for those who can wait.
Set measurable and quantifiable goals.
It’s much easier to give up when your goal is very vague. However, when you list specific goals, they will take on a certain things that will be good for your motivation.
Also, break large goals down into smaller ones so that you have more rewards along the way. It’s all very well to dream like a billionaire, it’s even better to set regular and progressive income goals.
Why rejection and failure are part of the process
No fight, no challenge, no battle is perfect. Every battle will be filled with ups and downs. There will be good times and bad times.
Ask everyone who has succeeded, everyone has experienced phases of failure, it is part of the process.
In achieving your goals, you will encounter many challenges that you didn’t anticipate. You may not always get over the hurdles the first time. Sometimes you may fail. But in every failure there is a lesson and a learning curve, so be aware of it.
When you fail, you learn to become better.
The important thing? The important thing is to never give up. Try again, understand your mistakes, improve and do better.
Accept failures and learn from them. Improve your skills and use them to achieve your goals.
Never give up on your dreams. Keep trying and you will succeed.
Strategy: why do we need a plan to succeed?
You always have to have a plan.
Having a plan works very well in short-term situations, such as an important appointment planned at the last minute, but it also gives you an overview.
To have a plan that makes sense, you need to prepare yourself by looking at all angles of the situation. As in chess, when planning, you need to have several options open. This is often the best way to succeed.
Because what others will do can threaten the pursuit of your goal, you should prepare several moves in advance. By trying to consider obstacles and working around them as part of the plan, you will get closer to your goal.
Your plans should also include different steps to reach your goals.
For example, if the goal of a certain plan is to reach point C, but this cannot be achieved without first succeeding at points A and B, write down the steps that will take you to the end of the game.
Timing can be critical to the success of a plan, but that doesn’t mean you should rush. It is important to take your time to prepare, but always be aware of the deadline and don’t waste time unnecessarily.
It’s all very well to have plans, but it’s essential that it should be documented.
Now, you may have a plan ready in your head. However, with time and future events, you’ll probably forget essential steps.
Even the best plans can be forgotten, altered or erased. But if you write down the steps in your plan as you go along, you can easily go back to them (so you can better reappropriate the different steps).
That way, if things don’t go according to plan, you’ll be ready for whatever comes your way.
Observe others and learn from their strategies.
Notice their mistakes and try to avoid them once you have made your own plan.
Write down every detail of your plan and be prepared to erase or change parts along the way – you can never predict the future 100%!
By using these techniques, you’ll be ready to face any obstacle… with the right mix of preparation and flexibility.
Don’t be a victim of old beliefs and preconceived notions.
As children, we are exposed to belief systems and experiences that affect us throughout our lives. Then we move through life creating experiences that match our beliefs.
These beliefs sometimes limit our decisions.
This often comes from the fears we create when we are younger. Often, our restrictive decisions (or limiting consciousness) are hidden in areas where we produce rather poor results.
Our limiting decisions shape everything we do. They prevent us from seeing opportunities and sometimes even discourage us from trying.
So how do we identify those old demons that keep us from reaching our full potential?
We have to ask the right questions.
When you refuse to do something or feel a strong loss of motivation, ask yourself why this is happening. It often comes from a belief.
Sometimes it is justified (you don’t jump off the roof of your house because you believe it is dangerous, and you are right). Sometimes it comes mostly from a flaw or insecurity you feel (e.g., successful people all have rich parents).
Many beliefs are only yours, they seem perfectly reasonable and valid to you… and you can probably find a lot of evidence to validate these beliefs!
But, if it’s a belief that still stands in the way of what you want, then you’ll probably have to try to disprove it.
So, unless you want to give up your goals and desires altogether (you don’t want that, do you?), it’s a belief that you need to deconstruct and give up.
Often, restrictive decisions are not conscious.
Surely you have learned to stifle your negative thoughts before they manifest themselves. Humans are usually quite good at burying their demons.
Sometimes you may need the help of a third party, such as a friend, a family member or a psychologist.
For example, if all you think about is money and your financial situation is difficult, how do you feel about it? Anxious? Angry? Desperate?
You need to analyse the emotion that is hidden under this pressure.
Why are you anxious? Is it because you might not be able to buy yourself food or is it just because you are afraid of other people’s eyes? Do you feel frustrated?
Maybe it’s because you feel that life is unfair to you and that you don’t deserve this.
You must isolate one limiting belief at a time.
Start with the one you have the most problems with.
Ask yourself why you have that limiting belief. This is a question you should ask until you run out of answers.
Write down all the reasons you can think of, starting with the main one that probably occurred when you were a child. Write down these reasons so you don’t forget them.
Then take several days to think about them, going back to your childhood, your adolescence, your first love affairs and your first financial troubles.
This work takes time, but it is important to understand how we work.
That way, you’ll better understand the things that affect you and you’ll be better able to control your life!